Alex a very warm welcome to the group. We are so gald you found us and please never aplogise for saying how you feel here, you have a voice and we encourage you to use it.
I am so angry that you have been made to feel so ashamed about your weight that you have been made to feel that you will be judged by your Doctor and are put off seeing him for that reason. You have tried to do what you can to lose weight and as I, and other members know only to well that you need to exercise to do that, but by exercising it makes the IIH worse. That isn't you fault! Also what we aren't often told, is that the medication we are prescribed also tends to cause weight gain. So we end up locked in a viscious cycle.
What I suggest you do up to your appointment is to keep a food diary and eat as healthily as you can. Keep a record of everything you have and weigh yourself every week and note that down too. Also keep a note of how exercise such as walking and cleaning the house affects you. Then when you go to your appointment you will be able to show the Ophthalmologist that you ARE doing something and what the results of it are. I do this myself and have done for many years, which is why they were able to link my weight gain to the medication, steroids and also my PCO's. So I know that doing this works.
We have several log sheets that you will find helpful for symptoms and housework. You can only do what you can do, and as long as you show that you are it will be hard for them to say yhou aren't because you have been thorough enough to keep a record which shows determination. Then you can ask them what they suggest you do as you have done everything you can. See what they suggest, for instance could they help you get help with a LAP band?
After years of banging on about mine this way and showing them these records and my husband also telling them how I've tried everything, they finally have put me on a weightloss programme, and if I am unable to lose it that way they will finally do something more permanent. So please don't give up.
All you can do is eat healthily, cut down on the dairy make sure it's low fat, cut out bread and starchy foods like pizza and pasta.Eat off a smaller plate, drink water before your meals and then you will feel fuller quicker.Avoid fried and greasy foods. Avoid snacking. I'm sure you alread know these things because these are the main things any diet tells you to do. Have you thought of checking out The Biggest Loser Club
or their The Biggest Loser Diet
? I know that some of their option aren't free but it might help to take a look at what they offer as we all know their success rate is pretty high.
Remember you aren't alone and we are all here for you, and we support you 100%. Please keep us updated.